Not much is known about the African Golden Cat except that it spends most of its lifetime solitary. That’s so fascinating, there isn’t much to know about this cat other than the fact that it spends its life being single.
What does spending my life being single look like? How intriguing, what else can I discover behind this status? There is so much more to be found, just like there is so much more about the African Golden Cat that we don’t know, waiting to be discovered.
The more I look into it, the more interested I am in what it means to be single.
This is a critical season where I have all the time to work on me. There is so much to do, so much to learn and so much to explore. In this season I am developing new strengths, new confidence, new capacity, new everything, wow! Undistracted by other stages of life I get to focus on my character. God is putting armour around my faith (Ephesians 6:10-17), strengthening my character, conserving my energy, and preparing me for the future!
“The Father’s work in us does not sleep – though in spiritual winters he retracts all advertisement. And when he does so, he is purifying our faith, strengthening our character, conserving our energy, and preparing us for the future. The sleepy days of winter hide us so that seductive days of summer will not ruin us.” [Anonymous – Alicia Britt Chole]
I think the one word that defines singleness for me is ‘Adventure’. The African Golden Cat is an agile climber though it spends most of its lifetime on the ground. So while I am single and before I spend the rest of my life time with someone, I am going to be the most agile climber adventuring out to discover who I am, what makes me tick, what makes me happy, what I love, what Jesus’ agape means to me, what makes me passionate, what keeps me going, what gives me energy, what takes away my energy.
I recently had intensives with Scott Wilson (@scottwilson__), a man of so much wisdom, who taught the class this:
The world belongs to those with energy. The decision you have to make is one about energy if you want to change the world. Here’s what you should watch:
- What you eat // your lack of energy is due to your diet, so monitor it.
- People // We spend more time with people who take energy, when we need people who give Make sure to connect to your energizers, they talk the right language, give healthy confrontation, and they buzz. Spend time being in their world.
- Atmospheres // A good atmosphere creates a sense of lift & energy. Get rid of things that don’t create an uplifting atmosphere for you (such as music with horrible/depressing lyrics). There are things/music that are de-energizing, find what energizes you.
- Spiritual Engagement // There are certain times of the day where prayer, worship, scripture, fasting can energize you and you can be disciplined with. Find the right time to do it if you need to discipline yourself. Don’t ask for the result without the discipline.
Come stand next to my vision for a moment:
I’m standing at the summit of a majestic mountain, looking out. The sky is dimmed, not pitch black, I can see the stars reminding me of God’s promises. There is a breeze and it’s lifting me up as if I’m almost soaring.
As the wind blows, I am going to stretch and enlarge my capacity (Isaiah 54:2), constantly innovate my ideas and let my experiences empower the people I love. I encourage those around me with the same passion to do what they love and while being alongside them I ignite the fuel to light up the fire that’s within them.
I am a woman who stands firm carrying the stamp of ownership (2 Corinthians 1:21-22), I have died to self knowing my true identity (Galatians 1:20), more importantly I am strong and confident because of the armour I’ve put on (Ephesians 6:10-17). My everlasting faith is in every decision I make, every move I make and every risk I take.
Faith is what defines me. Writing is what expresses me. Preaching is what motivates me.
Jesus is who inspires me. God the Father is who empowers me. Holy Spirit is who guides me.
Prayer is what stills me. Praise is what lifts me. The Word is what strengthens me.
Salvation is the confidence in me. Dying to self is the hope in me. The Church is expectant of me. The People are those who encourage me.
Calling is what wakes me. Fire is what drives me. Passion is what launches me.
Hey, I’m spending the most of my life being with me, so I am going to get good at it. I will not allow this precious season of singleness, growth and discovery to cause me to think I am ever alone or inadequate. This is the day, this is the time, for Sarah to embrace everything that she is to charge forward, chase dreams and conquer territories. To fear, to insecurities, to loneliness, to depression, to the enemy, to anything that tries to bring me down: Come at me!
‘The time we have to be single, is really the time we have to get good at being alone.’ – How to be Single
As of today, there really isn’t anything more interesting than being single and loving it.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson